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Courageous father Nathan meets Derrick, a boy interested in his daughter Jade

What Do You Think? Wednesday
I don’t know who concerns me more, wishy washy or people pleasing people. Or maybe my concern lies more with exaggerators and hasty and hesitant folks. Or maybe I can’t make up my mind which concerns me more because none of these groups seems to be able to make up their minds to stick with an honorable decision and to be okay with that. In most instances, they lack virtue, a quality that is sorely missing in society at large and seems particularly challenging for youths.

When I was young I took modern dance and gymnastics and gave them up for Saturday morning cartoons and a body a little more chunky than the average body type. I refused to take piano lessons though my grandfather practically begged me and said he would pay for the lessons. I quit the high school newspaper staff after a conflict with the teacher. Don’t get me wrong: I was in the National Honor Society, senior class secretary and president of a teen leadership group. I stuck to some things, but I wish I had the courage, fortitude, resolution, all biblical definitions of virtue, to finish some of those things that I quit. Now that I’m older, instead of trying to be in everything, I seek to have virtue concerning what really matters, particularly my faith and family. This is the message of Courageous, the new box office hit movie that presents what I believe to be holistic Christians seeking to fully live out their faith. Though the central focus is on five men striving to be the best fathers, and, by extension for some, husbands they can be, this movie challenges all to step up and be more than “good enough,” as main character Adam Mitchell referred to his role as father. With humor injected throughout the heartfelt (even some heartbreaking) scenes, this drama causes visceral reactions.

“It made us cry; it made us laugh; it made us cling to our neighbor’s hand; it made us want more, more of the movie and also more as a man to become a better father, not just good enough,” says Musings reader and one of my mentees, Kamil Pitts, referring to her and her husband, Gary. “We wanted to be more not just for our own kids but for our fatherless and motherless youth around us. What would happen if we all just took action as mothers and fathers, doing what we are called to do—not just the basics but our very best? I’m ready for a resolution.”

If you haven’t seen Courageous yet, I encourage you to do so. Also, all you women ready like Kamil for a resolution to be a strong biblical woman, I challenge you to join me in reading “The Resolution for Women,” by Priscilla Shirer. You can even go to her blog to participate in the online book club, too. When you see the movie and read the book, please let me know what you think.

Courageous, the fourth film from Sherwood Pictures, the moviemaking ministry of Sherwood Baptist Church in Albany, Georgia, opened last weekend in theaters across the country and Canada. Go to the Courageous website for more information.

Courageous: The Movie and Womanhood

What Do You Think? Wednesday

Next week I join a panel of married women to answer questions of women who’ve been through a six week marriage class. Some of their questions are typical of those struggling to overcome strong black womanhood, such as one wanting to know if she was wrong to disregard her husband’s budget commands or another asking how she can serve her husband with a good attitude when she’s upset with him. There are no easy answers for those entrenched in a marital power struggle. But the standard answer comes from 1 Peter 3:1-6, the crux of the verses revealing that our behavior, not our words, should be used to influence our husband to believe, and therefore do, the right thing. Our actions, not our nagging, will be our best advocate.

To be a biblical wife takes some resolve, and resolve is also what our husbands and the fathers in our lives need to be the men God has called them to be. This is the premise of Courageous, a new movie by Sherwood Pictures, the same company who brought you Fireproof, the movie that started a marriage revolution with its accompanying book The Love Dare. Like Fireproof challenged married couples, Courageous will challenge men to resolve to be the best fathers and husbands that they can be. Though the movie is geared toward men, Courageous will have collateral materials for men and women, including the book by Bible teacher Priscilla Shirer, The Resolution for Women. Shirer has even begun a seven-week countdown to the September release of the movie and her book with
The Resolution Revolution Project. She is challenging women to embrace the 13 resolutions for women included in her book through weekly discussions of them on her blog. Together the resolutions cover all aspects of our lives as women, like being a champion of biblical femininity, being defined by the word of God and being content. Check out the movie trailer and Shirer’s blog and let me know what you think. Courageous may be a movie you women can see with your spouses and let the movie do the talking for you.