I got the news and knew just who to call: Some old, some new, all good girlfriends, no one who would shout about their lives or sink—be envious—in the midst of my news. They truly could embrace my news and celebrate with me. This can be rare among strong black women, even those recovering strong black women who seek to follow Christ in all aspects of their lives. For them, it can be the fight to see who can get the most folks to delight in them. The war is for the title of the strongest strong black woman, and as they see it, always being on top is the way to this top title. But some folks, like my circle of friends and the superstars I saw Friday, know differently.

Like good girlfriends, three powerhouse singers, Dianne Reeves, Angelique Kidjo and Lizz Wright, graced the stage on Friday at the Detroit Jazz Festival with their show “Sing the Truth,” a tribute to their songstress foremothers and other revolutionary singers. Each freely gave praise and the stage to each other. These superstar sisters didn’t seek to outshine but frequently and easily deferred to one another. They were all showstoppers but none tried to be a show stealer, seeming to feel quite comfortable in their God-given skin.

Check out their video below and make sure to let me know what your experiences have been like with other strong women. You know I want to know, “What do you think?”